Thursday, September 8, 2011

Clown Car!

Just found this photo. Made me smile :D

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Learnings from Day One: Walking to Work

I decided to save money and walk to work yesterday. The round trip clocks in at 8 miles, taking me about an hour and 10 minutes with stop lights. Here is what I have learned so far:
  • I should have worn a hat (sunburnt)
  • I sweat like a pig (Not news but still...)
  • Carrying a heavy backpack takes its toll after 4 miles (Didn't even know my shoulder blades could get that sore!)
  • I have wuss feet (Three blisters on one ankle and something that feels like carpet burn on my soles, ouch)
  • Shoulda stretched 'cause my shins are SORE!
  • My walk includes a big hill! I was huffing and puffing the whole way ahaha
  • I have to pass through a narrow, dark and scary tunnel under the freeway
  • I should probably invest in a bicycle
  • This walk makes me perfect game for rapists, muggers, etc. - I am unarmed, nearly close to passing out due to the extreme heat making me unable to defend myself or run and the path is pretty secluded and creepy...
Yay for walking...? I s'pose it's good exercise and easy on my pocketbook...

Friday, April 8, 2011

When it Feels Right

Have you ever had that feeling that what you're currently doing just feels right? Whatever life-changing decision or path you've taken, you just know whole-heartedly that it is the right choice for you. You were meant to do it, you belong there. That feeling is so fulfilling and beautiful, it's beyond description.

I have that feeling right now. That makes me so happy to be in my rightful place. Although I have not built any concrete support systems there, I know it is where I am supposed to be. I no longer feel like I am forcing myself to love something. I don't have to kid myself. The love and desire come without provocation, just as they should.

I remember feeling so lost and desperate to find my footing. I often thought that I may not ever find it. I thought I was supposed to deal with whatever I could tolerate the most and go from there, never being completely happy. That was just life. What a miserable and awful way to live.

I am so, so happy and cannot wait to move forward! All with BABY STEPS.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

I am stutter-shook and uptight...

I realize one my biggest pet peeves is when people use the microwave and take their contents out early but do not clear out the remaining time therefore leaving me with the task of canceling the excess time they left behind. I know, such a small task for me but it just irks me. I feel this action is a clear indication of the other person's lack of consideration for others. Ooh, they're too busy and important to take the extra time to leave things as they found it! Again, I know... I know, this sounds very silly but it means a lot to me for some reason.

Another thing I've noticed, I still don't leave the office until after its dark even though daylight savings has occurred. What's up with that? Why am I spending so much time at work when I really dislike getting home after the sun has set? The answer is always the same: Work is crazy busy. Makes me a bit sad but then again I am happy to have a job at all. Ahhh, the compromises we make in life.

I am very excited for the cousin snowboarding trip! Double YAY!

Nicholas Gonzalez... WOOF.

There is this new TV show called Off the Map on ABC. Mateo, a character on the show, is played by Nicholas Gonzalez. WHAT. A. HOTTIE. Check it:
Oh MY. Shantay, you stay!

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Feeling Fortunate

I may not have a lot of friends, but I absolutely adore the few that are there. My nearest and dearest include a hopeful, positive and determined individual with a flair whom I greatly admire; a wildly ambitious dreamer who continues to inspire me; an incredibly smart and witty person who makes me smile; a girl with a heart of gold and a unique treasure I call  one of my best friends.

The fun part is guessing who is who. Each one means the world to me and I am so happy to have that individual in my life. I enjoy the time we get to spend together and I only hope we will remain friends for the rest of our lives <3

I am excited to (hopefully) make some new friends this coming week! I haven't made a new friend since 2007! I am glad I chose to do this project and cannot wait for it to start. And, fingers crossed, I hope to add to my motley crew too!

Monday, February 28, 2011

8 Tips for Dealing Calmly with Criticism

Another great article from The Happiness Project blog:

8 Tips for Dealing Calmly with Criticism. Which I Find Very, Very Challenging.

Every Wednesday is Tip Day.
This Wednesday: 8 tips for dealing calmly with criticism.
I have a very hard time being criticized, corrected, or accused – even of the smallest mistakes – and I react very angrily. I struggle to respond calmly and constructively -- even when it's something like my six-year-old saying, "You forgot to put my library book in my backpack." It's all I can do not to snarl, "Why didn't you remember your library book?" Zoikes, how I try to be more mild-mannered and easy-going! Here are some of the strategies that I try to use to accept criticism.
1. Listen to what a critic is saying. Really listen, try to understand that point of view, don’t just nod while you formulate your retorts.
2. Don’t be defensive. This is the toughest step for me. With my writing, for example, I always have to take a deep breath before reading an edit letter or meeting with an editor, to remind myself, “I welcome criticism. This person is helping me. I want to hear how to improve my book/article/post.” Act the way you want to feel! That’s my Third Commandment. It's really uncannily effective; acting friendly and eager to learn makes me feel friendlier and more eager to learn. Along the same lines…
3. Don’t fire back by criticizing your critic. Your comments will just sound defensive, and you’ll escalate the exchange. This urge is very difficult to resist, because the impulse to justify and attack is strong when you feel criticized, but it isn’t helpful, and it certainly isn’t effective.
4. Delay your reaction. Count to ten, take a deep breath, sleep on it, wait until the next day to send that email…any kind of delay is good. I find it's much easier to apply this rule when I'm responding in writing. I've trained myself to think long and hard before hitting "send" or "enter."
5. Explain honestly the reason for your actions. Sometimes it’s tempting to re-characterize your actual feelings, actions, and motives. Usually, though, that just complicates things more. It becomes impossible to have an honest exchange.
6. Admit your mistakes. This is extremely effective. When I got my first job,my father told me, “If you take the blame when you deserve it, you’ll get the responsibility.” I’ve found that to be very true. Difficult, but true. Admitting mistakes is the first step, then…
7. Explain what you’ve learned. If you can show a critic that you’ve learned something, you prove that you’ve understood the criticism and tried to act on it. That, itself, usually mollifies critics.
8. Enjoy the fun of failure. Re-frame the issue entirely to embrace criticism. Fact is, trying new things and aiming high opens you to criticism. I tell myself to Enjoy the fun of failure to try to re-frame failure and criticism as part of the fun. Otherwise, my dread of criticism can paralyze me.
What am I overlooking? Have you found any other strategies that work for you?
* The blog on the site Hunch did a funny, thought-provoking look at the question, Can making the bed change your life?